Sexual Assault/Violence

Tips for Protecting Yourself from Sexual Assault/Date Rape

Safety at home:

  • Install locks on all doors and windows.
  • Install a peephole in your door.
  • Never open your door without knowing who's on the other side.
  • Don't let any strangers into your home.
  • If you come home and find a door or window open or signs of forced entry, don't go in.

On the street:

  • Be alert to your surroundings.
  • Park in a well-lit area.
  • Walk confidently and at a steady pace. A rapist looks for someone who appears vulnerable.
  • Have your keys out and ready before you need them.
  • Always look around, and in the back seat of your car before entering your car.
  • If you think you're being followed, walk quickly to an area where there are lights and people.
  • If you're in danger, scream and run, or yell "fire."
  • Learn self-defense.

At parties and bars:

  • Stick with your friends.
  • Hold on to your drink – even when you go to the bathroom.
  • If your drink is out of your sight, even for a few seconds, get a new one.
  • Don't accept a drink from anyone – unless you can watch the bartender pour it.
  • Don't share drinks.
  • Don't drink from punch bowls or open containers.
  • Don't drink anything that tastes strange.
  • Avoid intoxication and drug use. When a person is drinking or using drugs, it is harder to think clearly.
  • Always keep your cell phone charged and on you.
  • Make sure you always have a ride home.
  • Trust your gut feeling. If something doesn't feel right to you, leave and get to a safe place immediately.
  • Learn self-defense.

On dates:

  • Be aware of controlling behavior that your date may display.
  • Don't give mixed messages.
  • Define your sexual limits and be firm.
  • Be aware that drug and alcohol compromise your ability to make responsible decisions.
  • Avoid secluded places until you feel you know the person better.
  • Don't be totally passive on your dates.
  • Pay your own way, if you feel that your date has a sense of entitlement attached to spending money on the date.

Community and National Resources

Safe Connections – Counseling and 24-hour Crisis Helpline provide resources and information to women and teens.
2165 Hampton Avenue
St. Louis, MO 63139
314-531-2003 (24-hour crisis line)
314-646-7500 (office).

ALIVE (Alternatives to Living in Violent Environments) – ALIVE's mission is to provide counseling, emergency sanctuary and other critical services to adults and children impacted by domestic abuse.
ALIVE (St. Louis County Office)
P.O. Box 11201
St. Louis, MO 63105
314-993-2777 (24-hour crisis line)
314-993-7080 (office)

Bridgeway Behavioral Health – The Sexual Assault Center helps victims become survivors. Bridgeway offers the only Sexual Assault Emergency Room Response Teams (SART) in St. Charles, Lincoln and Warren Counties.
1601 Old S. River Road
St. Charles, MO 63303
877-946-6854 (24-hour crisis line)
636-224-1202 (office)
877-462-1758 (Lincoln Country)

YWCA St. Louis Area Sexual Assault Center – Provides support and advocacy to victims of sexual assault and abuse within the St. Louis metro area.
140 N. Brentwood Blvd.
St. Louis, MO 63105
314-531-RAPE (7273) (24-hour crisis line)
314-726-6665 (office)

The Center for Trauma Recovery – Provides specialized services to trauma survivors.
University of Missouri - St. Louis

Crisis Nursery – Provides a safe haven for children facing child abuse or kids who have family in crisis.
314-768-3201 (24-hour helpline)

Youth in Need – Youth in Need is dedicated to building positive futures for the community’s most vulnerable children, teens and families.
1815 Boone's Lick Road
St. Charles, MO 63301
636-946-3771 (24-hour helpline)
636-946-5600 (central office)

Woman's Place – Woman's Place is a safe and welcoming drop-in center serving adult women in the entire Metro St. Louis area. Offer's crisis intervention, referral services, support groups and personal empowerment workshops.
4116 McClay Road
St. Charles, MO 63304

The Women's Safe House - Provides safe shelter and support services to battered women and their dependent children.
The Women's Safe House
P.O. Box 63010
St. Louis, Missouri 63163

Women's Shelters – Listings of shelters, transitional housing, residential treatment centers and women's residential services in Missouri.

Girls Health – Promotes healthy and positive behaviors in girls, giving them reliable and useful health information.

United Way – United Way Resource directory.

RAINN: Rape, Abuse, Incest National Network – RAINN is the nation’s largest anti-sexual violence organization.  RAINN also carries out programs to prevent sexual violence, help victims and ensure that rapists are brought to justice. 
1-800-656-HOPE (4673) National Sexual Assault Hotline

AARDVARC: An Abuse, Rape & Domestic Violence Aid & Resource Collection – Provides resources and educational and reference material on sexual violence, rape, domestic violence, stalking, and victim assistance.

Crime Victim Advocacy Center – Provides resources, counseling, advocacy and referral for victims of crime and their families. 314-652-3623

St. Louis Domestic and Family Violence Council Resources for Domestic Violence Victims – General Domestic Violence Victim Assistance Hotlines/Websites.

Missouri Department of Public Safety – Resources available St. Charles County and St. Louis County.

Legal Advocates for Abused Women – LAAW is a local domestic violence program in the greater St. Louis area that provides crisis intervention & support, legal information and advocacy, safety planning, and legal and social service referrals for victims of abuse.

Legal Services of Missouri – Provides legal aid to low-income and elderly people in Missouri. 
314-534-4200 or 800-444-0514

Missouri Courts Forms – Forms from the Missouri Courts website that a person uses to request an order of protection against another adult.

Legal Services of Eastern Missouri – Provides high-quality legal assistance and equal access to justice to low-income people.

Crime Victims' Compensation Program – Assists victims of violent crime in paying for reasonable medical expenses, counseling expenses, funeral expenses, lost wages and loss of support.

Missouri Department of Social Services – Accepts confidential reports of suspected child abuse, neglect or exploitation.

Missouri Victim Automated Notification System – A fully automated, information notification system that immediately notifies registered users upon a change in an offender’s incarceration and court status.