Bystanders play a critical role in the prevention of sexual and relationship violence. They are "individuals who observe violence or witness the conditions that perpetuate violence. They are not directly involved but have the choice to intervene, speak up, or do something about it." We want to promote a culture of community accountability where bystanders are actively engaged in the prevention of violence without causing further harm. We may not always know what to do even if we want to help. Below is a list of some ways to be an active bystander.
If you or someone else is in immediate danger, dial 911. This could be when a person is yelling at or being physically abusive towards another and it is not safe for you to interrupt.
With no intent to blame the victim and recognizing that only rapists are responsible for rape, the following are some strategies to reduce one’s risk of sexual assault or harassment (taken from Rape, Abuse, & Incest National Network, www.rainn.org)
National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-SAFE (7233)
National Sexual Assault Hotline: 800-656-HOPE (4673)
Safe Connections – Counseling and 24-hour Crisis Helpline provide resources and information to women and teens.
2165 Hampton Avenue
St. Louis, MO 63139
314-531-2003 (24-hour crisis line)
ALIVE (Alternatives to Living in Violent Environments) – ALIVE's mission is to provide counseling, emergency sanctuary and other critical services to adults and children impacted by domestic abuse.
ALIVE (St. Louis County Office)
P.O. Box 11201
St. Louis, MO 63105
314-993-2777 (24-hour crisis line)
Bridgeway Behavioral Health – The Sexual Assault Center helps victims become survivors. Bridgeway offers the only Sexual Assault Emergency Room Response Teams (SART) in St. Charles, Lincoln and Warren Counties.
1601 Old S. River Road
St. Charles, MO 63303
877-946-6854 (24-hour crisis line)
877-462-1758 (Lincoln Country)
Crider Health Center: 636-332-6000
Volunteers in Medicine: 636-724-4848
YWCA St. Louis Area Sexual Assault Center – Provides support and advocacy to victims of sexual assault and abuse within the St. Louis metro area.
140 N. Brentwood Blvd.
St. Louis, MO 63105
314-531-RAPE (7273) (24-hour crisis line)
The Center for Trauma Recovery – Provides specialized services to trauma survivors.
University of Missouri-St. Louis
Crisis Nursery – Provides a safe haven for children facing child abuse or kids who have family in crisis.
314-768-3201 (24-hour helpline)
Youth in Need – Youth in Need is dedicated to building positive futures for the community’s most vulnerable children, teens and families.
1815 Boone's Lick Road
St. Charles, MO 63301
636-946-3771 (24-hour helpline)
636-946-5600 (central office)
Woman's Place – Woman's Place is a safe and welcoming drop-in center serving adult women in the entire Metro St. Louis area. Offer's crisis intervention, referral services, support groups and personal empowerment workshops.
4116 McClay Road
St. Charles, MO 63304
The Women's Safe House – Provides safe shelter and support services to battered women and their dependent children.
The Women's Safe House
P.O. Box 63010
St. Louis, Missouri 63163
Women's Shelters – Listings of shelters, transitional housing, residential treatment centers and women's residential services in Missouri.
Girls Health – Promotes healthy and positive behaviors in girls, giving them reliable and useful health information.
RAINN: Rape, Abuse, Incest National Network – RAINN is the nation’s largest anti-sexual violence organization. RAINN also carries out programs to prevent sexual violence, help victims and ensure that rapists are brought to justice.
1-800-656-HOPE (4673) National Sexual Assault Hotline
AARDVARC: An Abuse, Rape & Domestic Violence Aid & Resource Collection – Provides resources and educational and reference material on sexual violence, rape, domestic violence, stalking, and victim assistance.
Crime Victim Advocacy Center – Provides resources, counseling, advocacy and referral for victims of crime and their families. 314-652-3623
St. Louis Domestic and Family Violence Council Resources for Domestic Violence Victims – General Domestic Violence Victim Assistance Hotlines/Websites.
Missouri Department of Public Safety – Resources available St. Charles County and St. Louis County.
Legal Advocates for Abused Women – LAAW is a local domestic violence program in the greater St. Louis area that provides crisis intervention & support, legal information and advocacy, safety planning, and legal and social service referrals for victims of abuse.
Legal Services of Missouri – Provides legal aid to low-income and elderly people in Missouri.
314-534-4200 or 800-444-0514
Missouri Courts Forms – Forms from the Missouri Courts website that a person uses to request an order of protection against another adult.
Legal Services of Eastern Missouri – Provides high-quality legal assistance and equal access to justice to low-income people.
Crime Victims' Compensation Program – Assists victims of violent crime in paying for reasonable medical expenses, counseling expenses, funeral expenses, lost wages and loss of support.
Missouri Department of Social Services – Accepts confidential reports of suspected child abuse, neglect or exploitation.
Missouri Victim Automated Notification System – A fully automated, information notification system that immediately notifies registered users upon a change in an offender’s incarceration and court status.